Tees shines a light on men's mental health

This month, as the global men's health movement Movember shines a light on men’s well-being, it's crucial to recognise the often overlooked physical and emotional impacts of divorce and family breakdown on men's mental health.

Movember, which has been raising awareness of men's health issues for 20 years, increasingly highlights mental health concerns such as depression, anxiety, and the high rate of suicide among men. By addressing the emotional toll of divorce and family breakdown, we can further Movember's mission to encourage men to talk about their feelings and seek support when needed.

Divorce and family breakdown can have profound emotional impacts, triggering feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, loss of identity, and loneliness. Changes in parental roles and financial pressures add to the stress, causing anxiety about stability and the future. This emotional turmoil can lead to physical health issues like sleep disturbances and weakened immune systems, making men more susceptible to illnesses. Neglecting healthy habits such as exercise and balanced nutrition can exacerbate these problems.

Societal expectations often pressure men to hide their emotions, adversely affecting their mental well-being and ability to cope. Recognising these challenges is essential, particularly when considering the connection to suicide awareness. High-stress situations, such as divorce, can exacerbate mental health issues and increase the risk of suicide. By acknowledging these difficulties and discussing the need for support and coping strategies, we can contribute to suicide prevention efforts, especially among men who may be more reluctant to seek help.

Mark Chiverton, a Tees' Family team solicitor, emphasises: "As a family lawyer and Resolution member, I strive to reduce the emotional strain of divorce and family breakdown for clients by promoting a constructive approach and seeking alternative dispute resolution methods. However, it's undeniable that divorce can be particularly challenging for some. Movember offers an opportunity to highlight these issues and empower men to navigate these challenges, emerging mentally and emotionally stronger."

He continues, "Working with families going through divorce and separation, I see the emotional strain on everyone involved. Just because clients don’t say they're struggling doesn't mean they aren’t. By recognising this and cultivating empathy, I can support clients more effectively and recommend specialist support from mental health professionals when beneficial. Early legal advice can provide clarity and direction."

Seeking emotional support from friends, family, or professional counsellors is essential. Psychotherapist Sarah Fahy adds: "In the face of divorce's challenges, men must know that it's okay to ask for help and take the time needed to heal and rebuild a fulfilling life. Prioritising mental health through professional support helps process emotions healthily during divorce. Embracing a healthy lifestyle with exercise, proper nutrition, and adequate sleep is crucial for physical and mental well-being. Setting realistic expectations for the healing journey reduces unnecessary pressure."

Mark's comments highlight the importance of addressing men's health during divorce and the need for self-care and professional support. Seeking assistance from qualified counsellors and therapists can significantly aid individuals through this transformative period. The British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (www.bacp.co.uk) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (www.ukcp.org.uk) offer 'Find a therapist' directories to help individuals find qualified professionals.

Remember, taking care of oneself is paramount during this journey of resilience and renewal beyond divorce.